Playing more

What a great day... playing ping pong and swimming with Caden, enjoying the kids' first flight on an airplane, having lovely conversations with strangers at our hotel, and just relaxing.  At one point, I found myself contemplating the texture of a glass in my hand and enjoying the enhanced spectrum of light from the California sun.  I've been playing a lot more in the past several months, especially with my kids.  I like that.  But this week is ALL play.  We are down at Disneyland this week, keeping our promise to take the kids there after selling our home last summer.  And it feels great to be here relaxing for a long stretch of time.  I had even decided to leave my computer at home (upon my daughter's request), but Nicole insisted we bring it in case we wanted to look up area attractions.  I actually find writing both relaxing and enjoyable, and I don't usually make enough time for it back home, so I've enjoyed having it along too.  Besides which, I owe a friend a long overdue letter!  -- the woman I mentioned in my last post who is struggling in her relationship with her girlfriend.  

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