Choosing Death

I chose death last night. It was an exercise at a retreat called The Practice. In the first round, I had chosen to live, and thought I would again, but at the last minute realized that I may be a little too attached to living... by which I really mean to not suffering pain (the little deaths) and that has meant I don't fully live... I live safely, too safely. If I avoid death at the expense of living, perhaps it is better to be a bit more open to death. And so last night I chose to die in the game, and I was fine. I was fine.

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